Flo: The Energy Of Attraction

On the deepest primal level, game is not about adding, but about removing. I watch guys search for new routines, gambits, a new line or a way to kiss a girl, thinking that if they just get that new piece of info, it will skyrocket their success.I know, I used to be that guy.

However, in my experience this just constructs a
shell, A shell that is built around a weak and insecure core.Instead of ‘celebrating yourself’, one hides and masks their true primal game with a house of cards that will eventually collapse and lead to a stagnation in ones progression.

So what are we removing if we aren’t adding?

Well, I work on removing those barriers that I have grown up believing based on cultural, societal and media influences, those beliefs that disempower me as a male.

Here are a few beliefs that the media installs into our culture.

Females have all the control.
Sex is bad.
Men’s value is based on how good looking they are the material they own.
If I am nice to women and nervous around them they will feel sorry for me and I will get the girl in the end.
Women don’t like sex as much as men.

There are many more (most unconscious), but once you become conscious of barriers you can learn to overcome them.What’s another reason one should focus on removing rather than adding when it comes to game?

Simplicity.

If a man is in his head interpreting everything a woman says and strategically trying to maneuver himself in a position of power with logic and seduction equations, he is missing out on one of the most powerful elements of game. The moment. Being in your head, when interacting with someone is a sure fire way to kill any energy in an interaction.

I’ve found that people do their best and get in ‘state’ when they are fully present in the moment and flowing. Analyzing or trying to predict the next step just takes them out of the moment and kills the synergy created. Yes, I’ve seen people logically seduce women with routines, lines and gambits, but to me, that is exhausting and just builds bad habits, hindering their ability to ever truly ‘take off’ as a ladies man.

Think about it like this… Everything you have in your head when out in the field, is a fucking obstacle.

How so?

It’s in your head and its leeching energy from the interaction and authenticity from your identity. If one were to remove everything they learned about ‘game’ or any other floating thoughts for that matter, WHILE in an interaction, they would be completely present. This doesn’t mean stop studying game. What this means is, leave it at the door. The best fighters in the world train and study, but when they enter the ring, everything is left up to instinct. They are completely present. If they are consciously trying to calculate probabilities or their next move, they will get knocked out. I do believe that people must work up to this point. Sparring or practicing with material that is conscious will help one train it to instinct, but eventually you have to get outside of your head, stop thinking and just be.

Have you ever noticed that it is easier to sexually escalate on a woman when you’re drunk?

Alcohol temporarily dries out your most outer part of your brain and works inward. So as a result, you lose logic. You step out of game and start acting on your mammalian brain (emotion) and reptilian brain (instinct)

Sometimes you have to get into that primal instinctual state to get out of your head and into your body. I’m not condoning becoming an alcoholic, but offering it as an example of why people’s inhibitions drop and sexuality increases when intoxicated. If you strip game down to it’s most primal, instinctual nature, it comes down to sex drive. That has been the motivating factor to court or dominate a female since the beginning of time. Everything else builds off these roots. The deeper and more powerful the roots are, the higher the tree will grow and the bigger the fruit.

See, in my mind, it’s about tasting the sexuality. When its time to escalate, think about it like this:

Do you want to kiss this girl in front of you because it is advancing the interaction?
It’s the next step and you don’t want it to stale out?

OR

You want to kiss this chick because her lips and tongue look delicious. It ignites a flame inside you that drives you towards penetration of her reality. It causes you to want to taste her. Because when you look into her eyes, you smell her perfume and she licks her lips… it’s enough to just make you BITE her fucking ass like a wild TIGER! You are the TIGER, a mother fucking sexual THREAT that will dominate her in ways her biology lusts.

I want the latter. Why? Cause that is the flame! That is the HEAT that you bring with your eyes, tonality, breath and touch. It is Semi romantic, but more hormonal “I’m going to fuck you” mentality.

You have to want it because you know that moment when your lips touch hers ITS FUCKEN ON! NOT because it is the next step… sometimes that next step isn’t motivating enough to MAKE THAT LEAP into the uncomfortable feeling of putting yourself out there and opening up, being vulnerable, by just going for it.

So what I’m saying is, frame your first kiss with a chick as something you want to do because you’re horny and want to see what she tastes like etc, not “oh yay I need to Kiss close this girl, here is another step in my Pua identity.” FUCK THAT. This leads to guys not having the balls to go for the kiss, or they get stuck in waiting for that perfect moment. I know I have. AND I still have problems sometimes and then I just tell myself I’m being a little bitch for not MANin’ the fuck up.

That usually fixes the problem.

I recommend not touching yourself. This will give you the balls to take risks in escalating that you otherwise would rationalize yourself out of initiating.Something else that helped me along this path towards simplicity is to drop all gambits, lines, stories that you normally use. Instead of being a smooth PUA with a system, start being an imperfect human being with authenticity and energy. Women are smart. They have the uncanny ability to smell bullshit, and if even if you don’t run the best game or have the smoothest line, authenticity and having the balls to fuck up will get you further than the community teaches you to think.

Try it.

~flo

This morning Pulse sent me a link to an article that has jammed open doors in my mind. This article is about a book called “The Holographic Universe”

 

Here is the direct link.
http://www.crystalinks.com/holographicuniverse.html

I’m sure a lot of you are familiar with everything that I am about to discuss, but its so important to come back to this frame consistently and realize just how much power we have as conscious beings. I see it as the potential to be what we understand as “gods”, to really master what flows into our world and make our internal reality manifest.

Everyone should read this and then reflect on how it truly has the potential to empower every aspect of your life.

The concepts in here are very close to that of “The Secret”. What you want in your life can manifest by simply focusing on positive rather than negative. However, what I found this article did for me, was provide more solid logic and explanation as to why “All is One” and events/situations/relationships are all an external representation of the seed that begins in your thoughts, is reflected outward, and ultimately ends in back in your mind.

Man has dived so deep into science that we are immerging out the back door of religion.
Many of these concepts are similar to Eastern religious beliefs. However, like any religion, having faith is paramount. This ‘holographic universe’ explanation supports and empowers the ancient eastern beliefs that EVERYTHING is intimately connected and not only that, but ANYTHING is possible based on your own beliefs.

Yes, even walking through walls, flying, and the destruction of any other physical ‘laws’ if one would like to take the concept to that pinnacle.
Now obviously that is a wild conclusion to make but this article drives the idea that laws/boundaries/rules are created not discovered. And perhaps if we learned to use more of our mind, our holographic brain that contains the entire universe in a single cell we could do anything that is possible to imagine. Yeah, the idea is out there, but that is the extreme. Baby steps first.

I have new motivation to continue affirmations and creative visualization. Not just at my house while meditating, but right there in field. When I cross that threshold into the bar, club, mall, out of my house etc. I will see the reality I want happening and really experience the fact that I am creating all this in front of me, no one else. Easier said than done, due to a culture that feeds off of disempowerment, but it’s a great frame to adopt and live by.

Pulse and I were discussing this and he stated:

“well the secret is basically just focusing on whatever you want and nothing negative just positive thoughts about what you want. This reinforces that a shift in consciousness actual changes the reality around you. You shift your consciousness to what you want… physical reality around you changes to fit that”

Affirmations are one way to begin to shift consciousness. Your thoughts are like a stream, a river in your mind. They are on a path that is comfortable and familiar. It has been dug out over time and flows from point A to point B unconsciously. It may be necessary to drop this metaphor if you are looking for instant change. The metaphors one uses in their day to day life to construct and understand concepts and reality can allow you to control and manipulate parts but also construct unconscious barriers and limits that overall stop change and inhibit growth in other areas.

However, I have found that understanding thought as a river forces me to be disciplined. A river isn’t changed overnight usually, unless of course there is an earthquake or some type of event of immense power. I see an ‘event of immense power’ being a death, birth, realization, bad trip etc. that changes your perceptions forever. I believe NLP has the ability to do this in some circumstances, (a matter of finding the correct leverage and proper tools to really “REFRAME” someone’s reality).

I think the best way comes down to routine and discipline though. Carving that new path of thought in your mind over and over until this new way becomes familiar. It’s so easy to have a monumental epiphany and be changed, but then allow it to become a temporary change by not keep the ball moving with a new routine or discipline. I see it happen all the time to my friends and myself.

So how can we take this concept and directly relate it to becoming a ladies man?

Here is one way that has helped me really make use of all this information.

1). Develop a goal. Be specific as possible. None of this, “I want to be happy”. That is too vague. Exa: (Be more specific than these descriptions I give)

What exactly do you want?

To be able to approach any person or groups of people confidently and playfully.

Now, describe in rich detail the experience in all five senses once you’ve accomplished this goal…

What would I see?

People smiling at me when I approach, laughing and open to my presence, genuinely curious and I can see the women’s attraction bursting forth subtly, etc.

What would I hear?

I hear my footsteps as I walk up to a group, I hear a conversation and them greet me after I introduce myself. I hear a playful tonality being exchanged between all of us that signifies attraction and sexuality, etc.

What would be the tastes in my mouth?

I taste a piece of gum that makes my breath minty fresh! And a little later I can taste her lipstick as I kiss her, etc.

What would I smell?

I can smell my own intoxicating odors of animal sexuality and confidence radiating from me. I can smell her perfume and perhaps a drink as I put it to my lips, etc.

What would I feel in terms of touch?

I would feel her soft hand shake and her constant touch that is growing more and more frequent throughout the interaction, etc.

How would all of this make you feel?

I would feel absolutely amazing. Free, open and in the moment truly connecting with another high quality person and sharing in energy….

Now, when you can experience your goal in rich full sensory detail, you are light years ahead of simply stating, “I want to be a PUA”. You have now activated your entire nervous system through your senses to start making that reality happen.

There is a principle in hypnosis called “Go-First”. In a nutshell, this means that if a hypnotist wants a certain state experienced by his subject, he feels it first within himself, then the subject follows.

Make this concept work for you with reality. You have to think rich if you want to be rich. You have to feel what you want before you’re external reality will shift to match your internal map.

It all starts with you, so make it happen.

Anyway, Im sure most of you were familiar with all this type of thinking long before this article. It’s nothing new, but offers a more in depth reality to explore and some real gems. Pull what you can and email me if you have some feedback or questions.

~flo

There is a lot of routine-based game out there to get lost in. With the public spotlight being directed onto the community more and more everyday, it’s time for the PUA to evolve or be left behind.

This last year has brought about many transformations in how I view ‘Game’. Many realizations have surfaced while on this journey that have allowed me to take a few more steps down the path of actualizing my full potential as a man.

This blog will share these discoveries. I’ve realized that the things in my life that aren’t directly related to game, dictate the ceiling or limit of my ability to attract women. This concept has pushed me into perceiving game and attraction as not limited to females, but life as a whole.

Everything is intimately connected. Health, hopes and dreams, hobbies, work, relationships with my friends and family and the ability to attract women are harmoniously connected. What is the energy that you create in your life with the above mentioned? If its positive, growing and open, you’re on the right track. If not, challenge yourself to take a deeper look into why, becoming aware of how this is impacting elements of your attraction.

I don’t claim to be a guru or anyone that knows ‘the way’.  In fact, I don’t know shit.  I know a few things that work for me and everyday I learn a little bit more.  I make mistakes when I game all the time, but I learn from them.  Some nights I go out and I feel in ’state’ or in the ‘zone’.  Then other days, I feel like my game has reached a new low and I should just stop trying.  What I can say is that, I’m learning more and more to be positive about all the downs that come with learning this skill set.  For me, its been a constant 2 steps forward 1 step back process and I don’t see that changing anytime soon.

~flo