Rayn: Fluid Seduction

Many of us go through a variety of different things to achieve ‘state’ before we go out on a night on the town. This ranges from NLP exercises before we go out, to visualizations, to maybe listening to music, or opening/blowing out a couple sets before we are feeling good and in a social mood. Much of this stuff works, but I there has been something lost as the community has been evolving that has put a huge weight on everyone’s shoulders.

That is, integrating yourself as a total high value male in all aspects of your life. What does that mean? That means that rather than what most people do, which is doing everything in your power to be a master pickup artist at night, and going back to your regular life in the day; you are in fact that confidant, charismatic, unique individual in all aspects of your life.

The old way created a roller coaster of a lifestyle. You could spend an hour pumping up your state, and a solid 4 hours of ‘sarging’ and feel great about yourself after Saturday night. But the next day when you are back at work as a chodely 9-5’er who is more beta then you’d like to be and doesn’t interact with people on that high value way that you’d like to, you aren’t ‘in state’ so you make no attempts to feel as good as you do on the weekends. You have regressed back into the old you. This is a massive cycle that people go through on a weekly and nightly basis.

Why would any of us be ok with this!?

People have gotten this idea into their heads that learning how to interact with women is some sort of superhero alter ego, and when they’re not out saving damsels in distress from all the tools around them, they transform back into Clark Kent. That’s fucked up! Think of the pressure that puts on you! Every week is a series of you deflating and relaxing, because you know you are going to have a huge output of energy on the weekends to pump your state up and get out there and open. That’s stressful to think about.

That is what the problem is. Just like all of Mystery Method and other pickup, most of it is meant as training wheels and a guide on the start of your journey. If you hold on to straight Mystery Method as you start developing, then you are screwing up because you becoming a carbon copy of Mystery. You can shed those training wheels and start standing under your own weight. Just the same, when you realize that you are getting to a point where you can open and flow in interactions, you are getting to the point where it is more natural to interact and be high value than the other way around. Therefore, it’s time to alter your frame of mind. No longer are you this fluctuating personality, because you are not at the start of your game where you have to do things like this to completely change your frame of mind. It is now the other way around, and every time you go back to your old personality and old self, you are hindering the growth that your subconscious keeps striving to hold on to.

It’s needs to be understood that nobody will ever be perfect. (This is good to believe in at the very beginning as a motivation, but it’s not true). Nobody will ever be able to pull any girl, any time, any where. That is the holy grail of pickup, and it’s a nice story, but it doesn’t exist. You can never know or account for everything. When you can realize this, an enormous weight should be lifted from your shoulders. Why? Because here are the implications:

I no longer will have the massive roller coaster going from great pickup down to beta chode. Since I know I can’t pick up every girl every time, I can be OK with myself if I fail. And when I’m OK with this, I realize that nothing really matters and I can be that high value male everywhere. I will live with a gentle flowing roller coaster. I no longer strive to be ‘perfect’ sometimes, but rather really good all the time (at school, work, grocery store, gas station, mall, etc). And now that I have let go of trying to attain unattainable perfection, I am much more OK with being blown out. And, as the real Tyler Durden says, ‘It’s not until we’ve lost everything, we’re finally free to do anything.”. With that realization of that ability to lose, you will now thrive in abundance. It’s counter-intuitive and very Zen-like, but very true.

The ability to live in the now and be OK with it will open up entirely new realities.

Obviously, reading/listening/watching different materials is very important for personal growth. It’s not as important as actually going out and trying out the things that you read or learn about; but it is important nonetheless. A general rule to follow is that you should be going out for 3 times as long as you are researching. So that means if you spend 4 hours reading a book on NLP on Wednesday, you should go out Thursday, Friday, and Saturday and just practice and game, and work on the principles that you have just ingested. Otherwise, it is too easy to get inside your head. Obviously, rules like this are flexible and change for each person, but the general concept applies.

As far as actual ‘pickup’ material goes: (i.e. opening, developing stories, lines, etc), there is tons of stuff out there. I don’t advocate most of it, because I think it makes people who read it into clones and starts them off on a path of becoming a social robot who still isn’t that good with women. He just knows how to fake being good.
I’m not going to reccomend any ‘pickup’ products. Anyone can find those on their own. Rather, I’m going to give you a list of material that I have used to supplement my journey and make myself a powerful person of rapport, identity, and influence in all areas of my life: especially including women. Some are prevelant in the community, and some are more obscure.

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The 48 Laws of Power by: Robert Greene

- Great for understanding the tools of influence on anybody. It demonstrates this through historical examples and their breakdowns.

The Art of Seduction by: Robert Greene

- Addresses power from a seduction standpoint. Good for understaning the tools of seduction that are available to both men and women.

The Red Queen by: Matt Ridley

- Breaks down human sexual evolutionary theory from all standpoints and explains the ‘Red Queen’ theory of sex and survival. Genius.

My Secret Garden by: Nancy Friday

- A book filled with the written and spoken fantasies of hundreds of women. Great for getting into the depths of the female mind and seeing what they truly desire.

Think and Grow Rich by: Napoleon Hill

- Many parallels of wealth gaining can be applied to advancement in any area of your life, including women. A classic.

Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance by: Robert M Pirsig

- An allegory of life and your personal drive for success. Great for helping you understand that social blocks that are programmed in your subconscious.

Get the Edge (audio seminar) by: Anthony Robbins

- Helps you define your goals, and set yourself up for gauranteed success in every day of your life.

The Power of Now by: Eckhart Tolle

- A spiritual awakened book that redefines the way you look at your life and your self. Wonderfull for building a true core and inner peace.

A New Earth by: Eckhart Tolle

- Takes many of the concept from ‘The Power of Now’ and applies them to society and how we are programmed by society and the false views and pitfalls that we become entrapped in.

The 5 People You Meet in Heaven by: Mitch Albom

- More of a beginners glimpse into reality, but still helps redefine how you view the people in your life. Applies to women in that you can start to see the beauty in all women and be able to truly qualify them.

Instant Influence (audio seminar) by: Robert Cialdini

- Breaks down the steps of influence in any interaction. Great for the more people you meet, (i.e. managers, bouncers, hired guns, etc), in building rapport with people of power and giving them what they don’t know they want.

How to Become an Alpha Male by: John Alexander

- I debated posting this one up, but I decided I needed to because it is great in its breakdown of the physical and verbal techniques that natural alpha males possess.

Introducing NLP by: Joseph O’Connor and John Seymour

- THE intro to NLP book that you need to read. The perfect gateway to a science that will alter your reality.

Ultimate Inner Game (DVD series) by: Hypnotica

- Once you know a little about NLP, you will be able to understand and utilize the wonderful exercises that Hypnotica has developed. I still use some of his stuff before I go out.

Conceptual Blockbusting by: James L Adams

- Opens your mind to new ways of thinking, and can apply to how you think about interactions and develop your stories and present yourself when talking to females. Also, will help you in how you address the new problems and obstacles that each new interaction brings.

The Way of the Superior Man by: David Deida

- He is truly one of the enlightened men of our time. He offers amazing insight into what the connection between a man a women really is.

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As you are reading and learning, just remember this metaphor (credit Vision). Game is like a car. All the reading and research that you do is like putting the car in gear. All the time you spend out in the field is like pushing on the accelerator. You can’t go anywhere at all if you’re stuck in neutral and just burning gas out in the field with no goal or direction. You need some guidance and direction to get the car going. But the car will only creep along at a snails pace in gear, unless you go out in the field and push down on the pedal.

The ultimate test’s always your own serenity. If you don’t have this when you start and maintain it while you’re working you’re likely to build your personal problems right into the machine itself.
- Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance

A good thought to be pondered when/if building a routine stack or developing a ‘game identity’ contrary to who you really are. A Mystery clone or a Stylechild is nothing more than a copy of someone else with your own imperfections built in. Forcing your personality and identity into a mold merely demonstrates your failure at some parallel aspect of your life - health, wealth, identity - and your attempt to disguise it by mimicking someone else.

There are so many people in the community who try to build themselves into something they’re not. They view the community and all of it’s tips, tricks, routines, gambits, stories, and lines as building blocks for a new you, rather than tools to improve the old you. You need to accentuate your strengths and overcome and learn from your weaknesses. Don’t mask yourself behind a routine stack or some NLP routines that may lead a girl on an emotional progression, but will ultimately crumble over time and leaving you feeling like less and less of a man and seeking more and more external validation.

But what good is me telling you what to avoid, if that’s the path you’re on and you have nowhere else to go? There is a place to go, it’s called back to square one. I don’t mean go afc again and start buying girls flowers and buying them drinks at bars and begging for sex or anything pathetic like that. I mean, take a moment to redefine your goals. Reassert in yourself where it is that you are going. Maybe you lost the way awhile back.

Write them down.

Write down what you want specifically, what are you willing to do to achieve it, what are you NOT willing to do to achieve it, what and who in your life are you willing to sacrifice (because people will ALWAYS be pulling you down when you are succeeding), and when are you going to do all this.

Once you have reaffirmed where you are at and where you are going, it’s time to re-take that first step. But this time, no longer hanging on the coat tails of all the self proclaimed pickup gurus out there. You are now walking hand in hand with them in a parallel journey to making yourself the best and most attractive male you can be. Whatever your current passions and skills are in life, I guarantee that Mystery or Ross Jefferies or Style couldn’t do it half as good as you. But I also guarantee that you can’t perform magic as well as Mystery, or write as well as Style, or speak in hypnotic language as well as Ross Jefferies. They have all figured out their strengths, taken on a deep and appreciative knowledge of females, attraction, and social dynamics (which anyone can do through reading and just constantly going out), and melded the two areas into a massively powerful and attractive male.

I, for example, work in film. I work as a producer for an independant production company. I have taken that and made it my identity. It is something that I love and am passionate about, and have built my ‘game’ around it. I first understood how attraction worked, and the emotional progression that made females comfortable (though a ton of reading and videos and 100’s of hours in the field. I may put up my recomended reading list in the near future) , and I took that knowledge, and made it nothing more than a constant subtext to my identity. I don’t worry about ‘picking up’ any more, because I know how to be that fun, confidant, sexually aware and expressive male as just natural undertones to whatever I say. I used to be too pickup oriented, and it just didn’t work in the long run and I felt unfulfilled.

I am still a huge advocate of community material and structure as training wheels, but I think there’s more than one way to skin a cat; and there is more than one way to build and create a high value male. Cloning yourself after Mystery may help build some fundamental subcomms and tonalities and help in grasping what a high value pickup or social interaction is.

The problem with that is that people fall into that frame, and instead of building off of it, they start to define themselves by it. Thus masking their own faults and personal dhvs behind the shield of a hastily built caricature of a high value male.

i.e. The ‘pua’ who reaches his ‘peak’ and slowly drifts away and out of self improvement to “relax with his ‘hot women’ in the new high value life that he has created for himself”.

Interpretation: He has reached a plateau in his game that is insurmountable with the currant facade that he opperates with. He has transformed from afc to a higher value male who is able to approach and pickup women of moderate value in most social situations. To move beyond that, it takes a radical personal leap to realize that your training wheels and incongruent personality traits must be shed (i.e. you must be willing to be vulnerable enough to shed a massive amount of ego that you have built; because now you actually can get girls and get laid, and you don’t want to lose that) and it is time to address the final group of imperfections that are halting your from being a true selector and a true ladies man.

Fractionation

Fractionation in NLP is repeating the induction of trance which deepens trance.

I am posting this because I have done something in my game a number of times that has worked wonders for me, and I think can help to utilize pitfalls as opportunities to grow, rather than barriers to advancement.

Fractionate your pickup.What I mean be this, is to take a ‘two steps forward, one step back’ mentality to your pickup. This has helped to keep my inner game and identity on even keel with my outer game. I will take a week, or 2 weeks, or more off of consciously sarging. In that hiatus, I take time to get my personal energy and shit worked out. I will study more inner game and self help, rather than anything pickup specific. I make sure I’m working out, eating right, and controlling all the important relationships in my life; because all areas of your life need to be growing congruently: health, wealth, relationships, and identiy. I make amends to areas in my life that have been lacking. I get my personal energy straight, and reaffirm my identity to myself, so as to build congruence when I’m back out in the field. As the old adage goes, “Stop and smell the roses”.

Way too many people avoid these pitfalls by becoming social robots. Rather than address problems and pickup failures as positive signs and catalysts for growth; they avoid addressing them all together and just turn into robots who do nothing but terminator sarge. I’m sure everyone knows someone like this…. “I”m gonna open 20 sets tonight, cause I didn’t open enough last night”, “I’m going to number close 3 girls tonight”, “I’m going to set up 4 day 2s this week, and if I don’t, I’ll just have to do twice as much next week”. These types of irrational numerical goals do nothing but stray you further from the path of being that cool, normal, sexually attractive, socially callibrated male. Rather, they take you down the road of social violation. Only on the opposite side of chode. What you need to do is ride the middle ground - between afc and social robot - of the ladies man. The way to do this is to constantly be cycling your growth through various forms of fractionation.

True pickup is flowing. It is a river. It is a moving entity of microcalibration and push-pull. It’s vibing and bantering and moving back and forth in an interaction - costantly knowing exactly where you are. To make this work the best for you, you need to be completely in the present.

It’s not uncommon for people to get overloaded with material and lack of true success. When this happens, their game begins to spiral and they get more and more inside their heads. This would be a time to take a step back (not a step out, just a step back) and re-realize the fact that you are a high value male who has no plausible reason to give a shit what any glitter wearing flooze in the club thinks about you.

Only you can know if this is something that is right for you at a certain time, and if you’re ready to fully embrace something like this.

The Metaphor:

(Credit Flo)

To fractionate is to take that sword that is your identity, and game, and to thrust that sword into the ground, which is the world. Right away, that sword will thrust deep into the ground. You will have success and progress. But once that sword is in the ground, it becomes infinitely more difficult to keep pushing it into the ground. It becomes increasingly harder to keep advancing your game in the world. But if you pull that sword out, and thrust it back into the same hole, it will shove deeply in again. Much more so than if you had just kept pushing.

It’s ying and yang. Everything in life needs to be balanced, and that applies to game as well. You can’t just be an approach machine, and expect to be the best you can be. Terminator sarging is great sometimes, but then so is just chilling for a night. If you start really getting inside your head, your game starts regressing, or you aren’t having fun any more; maybe it’s time to consider getting a different but equally important area of you life handled.

Your identity needs to be firmly grounded in something other than pickup. Magician, singer, actor, dancer, biker, entreprenuer, photographer, film maker, etc.

This is not to say that you should back off of studying pickup and putting in the minutes in the field. This is saying that you need to spend a little more time to make sure you are the complete package.

If you take a fractionation period, not only will your energy be regrouped things in your life be handled that you need handled, but you will come back into the game with an inner peace that will come off in your confidance, your ability to plow and not react, and your overall congruence.

This set contained a few obstacles that I think are important to be addressed. Before I get into the obstacles and shit-tests passed, let me let you know the structure that went into the interaction. This was an attractive hired gun, so unlike a random girl walking through the mall, she required some more attraction to be built before I could flow forward with the interaction. Because just like a 10 in a club, she is hit on and flirted with indirectly all day long. The attraction was built through my first impression (body language, frame, tonality) and a series of busts (a lighter version and less rehearsed form of a neg. In essence, disqualifications) and misinterpretations. Once I had attraction, I went vulnerable direct and exposed my intentions out right. This was the bursting point through which all remaining sheilds were blown through. At the same time, my vulnerability created a space in the interaction that she could exploit, or step into and fill with her own version of vulnerability. She responded positively, and in essence contributed to creating some true comfort and trust in the interaction, and bringing me to a point where I could number close.Obstacle 1: The male manager she was with at the beginningSolution: This was overcome by first busting on him, and then pulling him right back in. I asserted myself as a high value male, but then brough him back in, because it’s always better to make friends then enemies. As an ally, he would no longer try to pull the girl away from me.Obstacle 2: She had customers to serve

Solution: Just like in a club, it is very low value to wait around for females if they leave. It projects that you have nothing better to do with you life then wait around for them to find time for you. So I walked away, and came back about 5 minutes later, as if I had just ended a phone call. Then I got her number because I ‘had to leave’. In reality, I could tell that I had taken just about as much time as I could from her as a store employee.

Obstacle 3: The number close

Solution: I moved her to an isolated area, and ran a qualification close in somewhat isolation. Most store employees can’t be seen giving out their numbers, so it is important to get creative to seal the deal at the end.

Overall, it is pretty clear to see that the reason that this interaction went well was because of frame control. I constatly re-framed her and held her in my reality - even though we were in her store.

Pickup and seduction has been around for as long as men have wanted to be with women. It wasn’t until recently that it has become a science. Now that science has come to a cusp where it is being transformed into an art. In my first post, I want to tell you all about where I believe the future of seduction, of pickup, and of relating with beautiful members of the opposite sex is headed. There are trends in society, and waves that we must ride. Just like a surfer, the high value male must practice to stay balanced on the surfboard of his identity and keep from going under, while staying at the front of the societal wave that is is constantly moving forward. The wave in modern pickup is pushing for the new natural.

The new natural is the high value guy who can flow and vibe with the confidance and charisma of the old natural, but with the undertones and base of a very socially intelligent person. Someone who understands pickup, attraction, and social dynamics, and can apply it in a flowing and natural way. No longer is it the hayday of the routine stack or the canned personality. There is benefit in all of that as a learning tool, but the end game has changed. The ‘opinion opener’ and the canned material as a base is the modern day pickup line, that has all the negative connotations of the lines of the past. Just like you wouldn’t ask a female if her dad was a thief, and then say something cheesy about her eyes; no longer should you ask women what they think of jealous girlfriends. The popularity and publicity of the community has created the common community as ‘the rule’. To be the exception to the rule requires a new step, over and beyond that of the average male who can buy an ebook and memorize a line. Everyone has this ability.

In essence, pickup is nothing more than state control and frame control. With a good base in the knowledge of creating attraction and social dynamics - of which materials and resources are more then plentiful - all it will take is an understanding of how to apply that knowledge. When these two steps are followed, the destination of a confident, comfortable, well liked, ladies man (not pickup artist) is inevitable. A pickup artist is a person who knows what to say to make a girl sleep with him. A true ladies man is overflowing with inner solidarity, outer congruency, bountiful beautiful women, and the admiration of men everywhere.

A ladies man is a three dimensional view of the two dimensional pua, and is the reconstructed and new version of the natural.